Fireproof Your Marriage 4

Hello Everyone,

We “Fireproof Our Marriage” by MAINTAINING OUR MARRIAGE
A growing relationship to your spouse will reduce the pull and attraction of adultery.

I Cor. 7:3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.
I have talked to you before about the top 5 needs of most men and the top 5 needs of most women. See if you see any similarities between these two lists:
The top five needs of most men are:
1. Sexual fulfillment
2. Recreational companionship
3. An attractive spouse
4. Domestic support
5. Admiration
The top five needs of most women are:
1. Affection
2. Conversation
3. Honesty and openness
4. Financial support
5. Family commitment
Did you see any similarities between those two lists? No. No wonder we have so much trouble adjusting in marriage.

Get serious and get down to the business of learning what it is that your spouse needs and be determined that you're going to meet those needs to the very best of your ability. One of the biggest problem areas for most marriages is the physical relationship.

I Cor. 7:5 “Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control”.

The Bible says sex is a spiritual responsibility in marriage and to deny each other or to restrict each other is to ask for trouble.

A scientific survey I read this week was done to discover what days most men like to make love. They discovered that they like days that begin with T -- Tuesday, Thursday, Today, Tomorrow, Tatursday, and Tunday.

We can laugh about it but we know it to be true. When you stood before a pastor or a judge and committed your life to another person in marriage you hopefully realized that you are committing to an exclusive relationship.

You are committing yourself to a man or a woman and saying "For most of the needs I have in my life, especially these top five, I'm looking to you as the one to meet those needs."

Unfortunately many men and women feel cheated. They feel like they've gotten a raw deal by the time they've been married a little while.

The needs are so different. There's conflict in their sexual relations. Here's a decision that each of us needs to make: if my mate is going to have a good lover in his or her life I'm going to be it.

Each of us should keep our grass so green that it would make every body else's look brown by comparison.

The goal is to be best friends. I heard one person say: "It's real easy to leave your spouse. It's not easy to leave your best friend."
How do you build a friendship?
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You cannot be best friends with someone you don't spend time with that you don't see very often, that you don't talk and tell your heart to.

Start today “Fireproofing Your Marriage” by honoring God’s command “You shall not commit adultery”.

All For Jesus

Pastor Phil